Many partners are concerned that a doula will be a third wheel or will exclude them from sharing in the birth, however the opposite usually turns out to be the case. A good doula will always remember that the birth is the parents experience. She is there to support your wishes and to help the two of you maintain your physical and emotional resources to share the birth together.
Many fathers are eager to be involved during labour and birth. Others, no less loving or committed to their partner's well being find it difficult to navigate in uncharted waters. With a doula, a father can share in the birth at a level he feels most comfortable with. The doula’s skills and knowledge can help him to feel more relaxed. If the father wants to provide physical comfort such as back massage, change of positions, and help his partner to stay focused during contractions, the doula can provide that guidance and make suggestions for what may work best.